Early grief is intensely physical…now, when I hear about the car crash or the divorce or the diagnosis, I put on my apron and bake a loaf of bread.  I arrive with a chai tea latte or an offer of childcare.  Especially when the sorrow is fresh, embodied care is immensely impactful.  Offer a hug, clean a toilet, send a bar of chocolate.  Words are important but incomplete.